At last. Spring is fully here. Flowers are unfurling with luscious, exuberant colors, the air is soft, and the sunshine is so welcome this year it makes us close our eyes in relief. And then, it begins to feel just, well, normal. It is the way things should be and I don’t really have to think about whether the tulips are going to bloom, now that the daffodils are up. They just will.
I was thinking about this a bit, and noticing that so often, clients say that they worry that they won’t know what do to, or how to be, or act, when the old traumas are released and dissolved, or when old ways of behavior are gone. It can sometimes feel safer to hold on to an old belief or incident, an old way of thinking, even old eating patterns or addictive patterns.
But it is important to allow ourselves to step away from that circle of thinking. Here’s why. Our entire system (being, self, true self) wants to come into balance and to flourish. We are hard-wired to do that. It is simply fundamental. Other things (patterns, behaviors, wounds, traumas, and so forth) get in the way and we hold on to them, or don’t know how to let them go. But once we do let in a change—and erase/dissolve/ease these old things, the deeper part of ourself will fill things in automatically. Sometimes it will take a while, but many times, people report that it is rather odd, but it feels “as if it’s always been this way.” They’ll forget that the problem existed, and feel as if this is just the way things are now.
This is the beauty of working with an interactive approach like EFT —-because as we tap on the acupoints, we are sending signals to the amygdala and other parts of the so-called limbic brain system. That’s the part in which the fight-or-flight response is generated, at a sub-cortical, subconscious level. And those signals essentially dissolve the reaction, while simultaneously reprogramming the system with the wording that is chosen.
It is quite elegant and very gentle—and we open like the flowers to the selves we are meant to be.